As I got older and no doubt because of so many ayahuasca sessions I was able to recall past trauma as a infant/child and had to deal with feelings towards my parents who were both dead, it was helpful as it explained some of my behavior towards them and the reason for many of my actions. As I came to accept my self and I also came to accept my parents as all products of our environment and social indoctrination with no need to hate them or me because we are all in the same boat driven by the same wind etc...which lead to a new found respect and admiration for my parents.
You did the best you could with what you had available, just as I hope your children will do also